Only your mother has a right to do anything with your ceremony, and only if you give her permission. ALl teh other mothers can jsut do what you tell them to do. Yes, it gets crazy, and I swore if I ever got married a second time, I'd do it cheap and easy with few people and damn little hassle since I nearly put myself on the verge of a nervous breakdown with my first. Did I mention that I catered my own wedding and my mom just happened to move her food manufacturing business the week before the weeking from a 600 sq ft facility to a 2,500 sq ft facility? Can you say mental case with just cause to kill my flaky in-laws who never showed up to help set up the reception? Yeah. Living on three hours of sleep a night for a whole month does not do good things to one's mental stability. All I can say is get bridesmaids and a maid of honor that don't flake as bad as mine did. Keep it simple, that will help.
Don't invite your cousins unless you think they will bring you a prezzie to make up for the fact they didn't invite you. If you want to break it down to a cold hard cash value matter, don't invite them unless you think the present they buy you will be worth more than the cost of the food to feed them. Harsh, but practicle if you feel indifferent or pissy towards them.
On a gift, I got plastic mugs that stack with a print job that said, "Thank you for sharing this day with us" with our names and the date. I've had reports years latter that those cheap stackable mugs were great for camping, grandchildren (who you don't want to give glass), and great for hot cocoa. I still use them to this day 11 years later, and so do my friends and family even though the green print on the white plastic has worn off. And for a gift item, they were practical and inexpensive compared to a lot of other gift items.
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Don't invite your cousins unless you think they will bring you a prezzie to make up for the fact they didn't invite you. If you want to break it down to a cold hard cash value matter, don't invite them unless you think the present they buy you will be worth more than the cost of the food to feed them. Harsh, but practicle if you feel indifferent or pissy towards them.
On a gift, I got plastic mugs that stack with a print job that said, "Thank you for sharing this day with us" with our names and the date. I've had reports years latter that those cheap stackable mugs were great for camping, grandchildren (who you don't want to give glass), and great for hot cocoa. I still use them to this day 11 years later, and so do my friends and family even though the green print on the white plastic has worn off. And for a gift item, they were practical and inexpensive compared to a lot of other gift items.