Don't invite the cousins then. Tell you mom they didn't invite you and if she wants to pay to feed cheap, ungrateful relatives that will only annoy you on YOUR special day, well then, she'll just have to live with the guilt of ruining your wedding day if they piss you off. (You want some gravy on your deep-fried guilt?) Don't do it to please your mom, only do it if it will please you that they will feel like crap for not inviting you or you KNOW that they will leave you alone.
I didn't do anything as easy as finger foods. I did the whole hors d'ouerve table (with 20 lbs of shimp for 100 people that was GONE! in a flash, crudites, cheeses, fresh fruits, crackers) for nibbles BEFORE the dinner, which was wild rice pilaf, chicken cordon bleu and roast fillet. I catered a lot of events over the years and my mom and I always cooked more than was needed, but she and I have NEVER seen people eat like they did at my wedding. 100 people ate like 150 people. Usually there are leftovers from an event, but there was jsut barely enough for this group.
If the mother-types want to be offer help, then delegate. This will keep them busy, keep them out of your hair with a project, make them feel useful so they don't bug you anymore and you have one less thing to worry about that is now in the hands of a competent adult who is eager to help. I could have used a bevy of those type of women with my wedding, but alas, all my female friends flaked and female relatives did too, with the exception of my sister - but she was 8 months pregnant at the time, so she couldn't do much.
Glad to provide one good piece of advice with the mugs.
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I didn't do anything as easy as finger foods. I did the whole hors d'ouerve table (with 20 lbs of shimp for 100 people that was GONE! in a flash, crudites, cheeses, fresh fruits, crackers) for nibbles BEFORE the dinner, which was wild rice pilaf, chicken cordon bleu and roast fillet. I catered a lot of events over the years and my mom and I always cooked more than was needed, but she and I have NEVER seen people eat like they did at my wedding. 100 people ate like 150 people. Usually there are leftovers from an event, but there was jsut barely enough for this group.
If the mother-types want to be offer help, then delegate. This will keep them busy, keep them out of your hair with a project, make them feel useful so they don't bug you anymore and you have one less thing to worry about that is now in the hands of a competent adult who is eager to help. I could have used a bevy of those type of women with my wedding, but alas, all my female friends flaked and female relatives did too, with the exception of my sister - but she was 8 months pregnant at the time, so she couldn't do much.
Glad to provide one good piece of advice with the mugs.