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People are so interesting. Recently, I've found so many people who seem to be convinced of their own self-importance. I've noticed it particularly with young men, but also with young women in their late teens/early twenties. Grandiose announcements are made, huge plans for opportunities of self-aggrandizement are formed. Commands are issued in the forms of READ ME NOW or MESSAGE ME OR ELSE!!!!111!!!1. 
Well, we've already read what I think of, "Tell me or I'm gonna delete you" in a previous blog. As for "Read Me! Important!" unless you are dying, are needing to do a survey for school that's due tomorrow or have a serious social or institutional rule that you're enacting, I do NOT have to read it. I do not care if you are offline, online, have dyed your hair pink or if you're trimming your toenails tomorrow at 10 am sharp. Trust me. I do not give a rat's ass. 
I might be more inclined to care if you pm'd me with "hey, just a little, teeny FYI, just in case you need something from little me, but you might not, but just in case, hey..." 
Sometimes the arrogance is subtle. It comes in the form of refusing to follow instructions, refusing help or even constructive criticism. What on EARTH makes you think that you are God's gift to anything, much less what you are being given instructions on? What on Earth would give you the impression that you don't need the help? If it's being offered, you likely do need it. Accept it with grace. Be glad someone is offering their time to help you so you don't continue to look like a fuckwad.
e·go·cen·tric (g-sntrk, g-)
adj.
1. Holding the view that the ego is the center, object, and norm of all experience.
2.
a. Confined in attitude or interest to one's own needs or affairs.
b. Caring only about oneself; selfish.
3. Philosophy
a. Viewed or perceived from one's own mind as a center.
b. Taking one's own self as the starting point in a philosophical system.
Please do not be surprised if I do not respond to your pronouncement or edict. I do not have the life energy to respond to other people's need for ego stroking - especially when it hasn't been deserved. As we've seen, I have enough things on my plate.
Just because your mommy treats you like the center of her universe, please do not assume that I'm going to. The center of my universe is me.
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“tell me or I’m deleting you.”

I’ve gotten, seen and been witness to many of these notes on 360 and IM recently. I ignore them simply because I think they are rather arrogant.

Here’s my take on it – I’m happy to read about your life and chat with you when you want it. I’m not going to force myself on you, nor do I consider reading about your life and thoughts or chatting in IM to be forcing yourself on me. I don’t need to read about your life if you don’t want me to, nor do I need you to read about mine (I actually rather prefer having a very small list of people who know my inner thoughts.) If you don’t want me to read your thoughts, I won’t. It’s easy – a click. If you do, don’t delete me. Also easy – not a click. Your “cleaning” really has nothing to do with me. It has to do with you. If, because I don’t respond to you, you delete me from your stuff – well, okay. That certainly tells me about my value to you. I’m okay with that.

I don’t approach many to chat in IM or PM. I’m of the thought that everyone is busy and they’ll say hi when they want to. I'm not about to stalk someone. If you want to talk to me, I’m here and I’ll be thrilled to chat. The fact that you are on my IM list means that somehow, sometime, you wanted to be. So be it. If you want to delete me, okay. I don’t care – really, nor do you need to tell me. It’s likely we weren’t talking all that much anyway – if ever. I’m probably pretty good with that, too. (I rather feel the same about the whole being invisible on IM thing – I take that as a hint about you not wanting to talk to me.)

I don’t feel that I should have to announce my intention to be your friend to actually be one. So, if I’m on your 360 or in your IM, you can pretty well figure that I want to be – if I’m not there… well, you can take that as a hint if you need to, too. Please, though, don’t ask me to chime in that I want to be somewhere – you may not like the answer if I’m in a particular mood.

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